Overcoming Self Sabotage: Your Path to Authentic Joy

by | Authentic Living, people pleasing, relationship, relationship with self, self love, stress

For more information about Authenticity Unleashed, my program for ditching people pleasing, click here.

How To Overcome Self Sabotage in Love & Life: A Step-By-Step Guide for Beginners

In this blog post I invite you to join me as we uncover an often-overlooked understanding of self sabotage and its impact on our journey towards happiness and fulfillment. Let’s explore the hidden mechanisms of self sabotage along with clear guidance on how to transform these patterns into pathways of self empowerment.


Self Sabotage: The Unseen Enemy Within

Self sabotage lurks in the shadows of our minds, manifesting as behaviours that often hinder both our progress and our happiness. It’s a misguided attempt by our psyche to keep us within the bounds of the familiar, yet it ironically holds us back from achieving our true potential. Recognizing these patterns is the first step toward liberation. When we discover the underlying needs behind what is seemingly “sabotaging” behaviour, we can fulfill those needs, rather than continuing to struggle to achieve the things we most desire in life.


The Blame Game: A Barrier to Connection

Blame is a common distraction that shifts our focus from internal growth to external fault-finding. This act not only drains our personal power but also has the potential to create rifts in our relationships. By shifting the perspective from blame to self awareness, we can reclaim our power and foster deeper connections and understanding within our relationships, breaking free of this common self sabotaging behaviour.


The Power of Past Traumas

We all know that our past traumas significantly influence how we interact in our present relationships. By acknowledging and processing these traumas, we can powerfully rewrite our love stories, transitioning from patterns of past pain to new narratives of growth and happiness. This journey requires courage and vulnerability but leads to genuine freedom and fulfillment. Facing what we have been avoiding will open us up to all new experiences and the peace and freedom we most desire!


Self Reliance: The Key to Fulfillment

Relying on others to meet all of our needs is an exercise in futility. True happiness and safety come from within! Through self discovery, self acceptance, and the pursuit of passions that ignite our souls, we can fulfill our own needs, thus relieving others from the impossible task. By taking responsibility for our own needs, we can create a life of fulfillment and joy, independent of external validation, and find freedom from the traps of expecting others to do what only we can do for ourselves.


Transforming Self Sabotage into Self Empowerment: A Journey to Authentic Happiness

This exploration is not just a thoughtful exercise but a call to action. I invite you to join me on this journey of transforming self sabotage into self empowerment in a powerful choice to transform your life and your relationships. By embracing self awareness, processing past traumas, fostering self reliance, and challenging the patterns of blame that are so rampant in our current culture, we can unlock the doors to a life of genuine happiness and fulfillment. Together, let’s embark on this transformative journey, rewriting our stories into ones of empowerment and authentic joy.


Tune into the full episode here:

Additional Resources

Creating Love – A Sweary AF Meditation: Grab this free 5 minute quickie meditation designed to help you to cultivate love with a side of sass.  

Unstuck for Women: Ready to get unstuck from patterns and habits that are preventing you from living your best life? Discover the power of The Spiral Stopper Method to stop overthinking and overcome your overwhelm. Grab your copy now! 

Unstuck for Women Daily Self Discovery Journal: Dive into self discovery to build unshakeable confidence and self love that radiates into your relationships. Order your companion journal now. 

Love Reimagined Course: Lean into creating your version of relationship that transcends the ordinary with ‘Love Reimagined.’ Discover how you can write a new chapter in your personal love story. Register for this transformative program here.

Additional resources and offerings


More Great Content

Unlocking Peace: The Power of Forgiveness & Self Compassion

Love Beyond Perfection: How Self Acceptance Impacts Connection

Finding Myself on the Run: A Journey to Love and Self Discovery

Stay or Leave: Navigating Relationship Crossroads with Confidence


Listen/ Watch

S3E16 | How To Overcome Self Sabotage in Love & Life: A Step-By-Step Guide for Beginners

Spotify | Apple | YouTube

For more insights and discussions, don’t forget to subscribe to Create Your Happy on your favourite podcast player, and join the waitlist for my upcoming book, “Unstuck for Relationships.”. Together, let’s redefine what it means to be successful in our relationships.

Hi! I’m Christy…

AKA The Happiness Hussy

As the one and only Happiness Hussy and Adventure Guide (Mentor) for living your best life, my focus is on helping you to find the truth and love within in order to consciously create the happy life, relationship and impact that you desire and deserve!

Contact Me