Do you find yourself constantly trying to win people over? Are you worried about what others think of you? Do you feel hurt by what others say or do, even though you’ve been trying so hard not to let it get to you? What if I told you that the key to true happiness is letting people be—while focusing on being your authentic self?
In this post, we’re exploring the powerful mantra “Let Them,” originally created by Cassie Phillips. This simple phrase can help you release the exhausting habit of people-pleasing and move toward a more peaceful, authentic life.
Let’s do it!
The Power of “Let Them”
The “Let Them” mantra is a game-changer. It’s about releasing the need to control how others perceive you and making space to be authentically yourself. Here’s how it works:
- Let them think what they think.
- Let them say what they want to say.
- Let them like who they want to like.
Other people’s opinions are reflections of their journey, not yours. When you stop trying to please everyone, you create space to attract the people who are truly meant for you.
Why People-Pleasing Doesn’t Work
We’ve all been there—bending, twisting, and contorting ourselves to fit into molds that were never meant for us. But here’s the reality: you’re not meant for everyone, and that’s okay. Trying to please everyone is not only impossible—it’s exhausting and inauthentic.
The path to happiness isn’t through people-pleasing or contorting yourself. It’s through embracing who you truly are, regardless of whether it pleases others.
Self-Compassion Is Key
Sometimes, despite doing the inner work, it’s still hard not to be affected by other people’s opinions. If you’ve been practicing “Let Them” but still find yourself caring too much about what someone thinks, don’t beat yourself up. It doesn’t mean you’ve failed—it means you’re human.
Self-compassion is critical in moments like this. Instead of judging yourself, get curious:
- Why am I reacting this way?
- What is this triggering within me?
Curiosity opens the door for healing, while judgment keeps you stuck.
How to Deepen Your “Let Them” Practice
- Flip the Script with Compassion:
If you’re feeling sensitive or insecure, reframe these feelings as strengths. Your sensitivity means you’re empathetic and attuned to others’ emotions—and that’s a good thing. - Celebrate Small Wins:
When you notice yourself practicing “Let Them” effectively—even in small ways—celebrate it! Progress isn’t about perfection; it’s about consistently showing up. - Allow Discomfort:
Part of building resilience is sitting with uncomfortable feelings. Instead of rushing to change or fix your reaction, let yourself feel the discomfort. It won’t hurt you—it’s just a feeling moving through. - Surround Yourself with Authentic People:
The more authentic you are, the more you’ll naturally attract people who celebrate you for exactly who you are.
Practice “Let Them”
Here’s a simple exercise to get you started:
- Pause: The next time someone’s opinion or behaviour affects you, take a deep breath.
- Get Curious: Ask yourself, Why am I reacting this way? What’s coming up?
- Repeat the Mantra: Remind yourself, Let them think what they want. Let them say what they want. Let them live their journey while I focus on mine.
Repeat this practice until it feels natural. And if you need a fun, lighthearted way to shake off stress, check out my Sweary AF Meditation Series. It’s a powerful tool to bring yourself back to your centre in 5 minutes or less.
And don’t forget to grab your copy of my book, Love, Unstuck. It’s filled with strategies to help you let go of what’s not serving you so that you can create a life that feels aligned with who you truly are.
Let’s Connect and Grow Together
If this post resonated with you, I’d love to hear about it! Share your experiences with practicing “Let Them” in the comments or connect with me on social media. Let’s support each other in living authentically and unapologetically. Together we rise!
If you’re ready to explore this topic further, check out the full podcast episode: “Let Them” & Let Go of What You’re Not. It’s packed with even more insights and tools to help you release external pressures and live authentically. And if you’re not already part of the community, subscribe to Create Your Happy on your favourite podcast player for more stories, insights, and inspiration to help you live, love, and grow authentically.
Remember, not everyone is going to like you—and that’s okay. What’s more important is that you like yourself. By embracing the “Let Them” mindset, you’re giving yourself permission to live freely, without the weight of other people’s expectations.
I love you! Now let’s go do some epic shit, shall we?
Christy xo
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Need a fun and powerful way to shake off stress and centre yourself so that “Let Them” flows more easily? Check out my Sweary AF Meditation Series! These short, sassy meditations are designed to help you cut through the bullshit, find your calm, and embrace your authentic self. Perfect for when you need a quick reset or a moment of “fuck it, I’m awesome” energy. Give it a try – your inner badass (and your stress levels) will thank you! Grab Your Sweary AF Meditation Series HERE
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