The CREATE Method: A Framework for Building Healthy Relationships

by | Authentic Living, relationship, relationship with self, self love

For more information about Authenticity Unleashed, my program for ditching people pleasing, click here.

Love, Unstuck: Do This to CREATE Healthy Relationships

Are You Ready to Create the Healthy, Happy Relationships You Deserve?

Do you ever feel like you’re stuck in the same relationship patterns, no matter how hard you try? What if the key to breaking free wasn’t about changing others—but about changing how you love yourself?

Today, I’m thrilled to share something special with you: my brand-new book, Love, Unstuck: Creating Healthy, Happy Relationships through Self-Love, Emotional Intelligence, and Authentic Connection.

 

My Journey to Love, Unstuck

Love, Unstuck: Creating Healthy, Happy Relationships through Self-Love, Emotional Intelligence, and Authentic Connection Book by Christy Holt, AKA The Happiness Hussy

Like many of you, I’ve had my fair share of unhealthy relationships in which I felt stuck. As a two-time divorcee, I’ve been through a great deal of unhappiness and heartbreak. For years, I stayed stuck in cycles of complaining and blaming, believing that my circumstances and relationships were creating my suffering.

I once thought the key to happiness was determined by what was happening around me. I believed I could find more happiness if I could just find someone to complete me—someone to fill the gaps in my life. But what I learned, after lots of trial and error, is that true fulfillment starts with how you treat yourself.

 

The CREATE Method: A Framework for Transformation

Through my journey, I developed the CREATE method, a powerful framework for personal and relationship transformation. Here’s how it works:

C – Calibrate Your Consciousness

Get curious about your beliefs, identity, and mindsets. Recalibrate them to align with your conscious self. When you shift your mindsets and beliefs, you set the foundation for creating the life and relationships you desire. For example, if you believe relationships are inherently difficult, you’ll experience them that way. By examining and adjusting these core beliefs, you can create new possibilities in your relationships and life experience.

R – Refine Your Routine

Tweak your daily habits to create an environment that sets you up for success. Small changes in your routine can have a massive impact on how you feel and how you show up in your relationships. Making it a habit to act with intention every day, whether through small gestures or significant actions, makes having and keeping the relationships you desire much easier. Your daily practices shape your reality, so creating routines that support your relationship goals is crucial.

E – Elevate Your Energy

Boost your energy to harmonize your mind, body, and soul. This means intentionally raising your frequency and working with the energy of unconditional love to align with your goals. When you feel good in your being, it’s so much easier to make choices that align with your intentions. This energetic alignment affects everything from your decision-making to how you show up in your relationships, creating a positive ripple effect in all areas of your life.

A – Activate Your Aligned Life

Connect with your true self and discover who you really are. From here, you can confidently embody your purpose, allowing your life to unfold in alignment with your authentic being. Remember, we’re not looking for someone to spend the rest of our life with—we need to be the person we want to spend the rest of our life with. When you live in alignment with your true self, there’s a natural unfolding in your experience that feels almost magical.

T – Tune into Your True Vision

Align your actions with your higher self and unlock new possibilities. Step into what feels expansive and fulfilling for your soul so you can live in alignment with your purpose. Get clear about what success in life, love, and legacy looks like for you. Then dream even bigger, understanding with clarity what you truly want in your relationships and life. Once you have this vision, you can actually get to work on making it your reality.

E – Empower Your Elevated Self

Fully embody your next-level self and operate from a higher level of consciousness. Become unfuckwithable and let nothing stop you from creating the impact you’re here to make in the world. Without this step of embodiment, simply knowing what you ought to do isn’t enough. This final piece is about living the wisdom and knowledge you have, walking it every day. This is where your true transformation happens—in the consistent practice of showing up as your elevated self.

 

What Makes Love, Unstuck Different

Unlike other relationship books, Love, Unstuck isn’t just about fixing your relationships with others—it’s about transforming your relationship with yourself first. It’s about understanding that your joy is rooted in self-love, not external validation.

We’ve been taught to believe that our happiness depends on the external world—finding the perfect person, the perfect job, or meeting others’ expectations. But the truth is, happiness is an inside job. When you start creating happiness from within, it naturally gets reflected in the world around you.

Love, Unstuck helps you shift that focus inward so you can expand into the next version of yourself and create relationships that feel aligned and joyful. It’s not about striving for endless self-improvement—it’s about recognizing your wholeness and operating from a place of abundance and overflow.

 

Create the Life and Love You Deserve

If you’re ready to stop settling for less and start creating the love and life you deserve, Love, Unstuck is your guide. Grab your copy today and take the first step toward a healthier, happier you.

And if you’re ready to go even deeper, check out my courses and mentorship programs, where we’ll work together to apply the concepts from the book and beyond.

 

Let’s Connect and Grow Together

If this post sparked something in you, I’d love to hear about it! Drop a comment below or connect with me on social media to share your thoughts, experiences, or questions. Let’s build a community where we support each other in creating relationships that make us truly fucking happy!

For more about what this book means to me, be sure to tune in to the full podcast episode, Love, Unstuck: Do This to CREATE Healthy Relationships. And if you’re not already part of the Create Your Happy family, now’s the perfect time to join! Subscribe to the podcast on your favourite platform for more stories, insights, and inspiration to help you live, love, and grow authentically.

Remember, the journey to healthier, happier relationships starts with you. Let’s take this step together.

I love you! Now let’s go do some epic shit, shall we?

Christy xo

 

Tune into the full episode here:

Love, Unstuck: Do This to CREATE Healthy Relationships

 

Additional Resources

Love, Unstuck Book & Bonuses: If you’re ready to transform your relationships from the inside out, Love, Unstuck is your guide. Packed with practical tools and insights, this book will help you create the life, love, and legacy you desire. Grab your copy today!

Love Reimagined Course: Ready to build a solid foundation of self-love and create healthier relationships? In our ‘Love Reimagined’ program, you’ll learn how to prioritize your own well-being without guilt, setting the stage for more fulfilling connections with others. Discover how to fill your own cup first, so you can give from a place of abundance. Transform your approach to self-care and relationships – enroll in ‘Love Reimagined’ today!

Creating Love – A Sweary AF Meditation: Need to get yourself in the right headspace to figure out what you need? Take a 5-minute meditation break to cultivate self-love and create space for clarity. Get your free quickie meditation now.

Additional resources and offerings

 

More Great Content

Finding Myself on the Run: A Journey to Love and Self Discovery

Stay or Leave: Navigating Relationship Crossroads with Confidence

Redefining Relationship Success: Beyond Traditional Metrics

 

Listen/ Watch

S3E30 | Love, Unstuck: Do This to CREATE Healthy Relationships

Spotify | Apple | YouTube

Hi! I’m Christy…

AKA The Happiness Hussy

As the one and only Happiness Hussy and Love Guide (Mentor) for living your best life, my focus is on helping you to find the truth and love within in order to consciously create the happy life, love and legacy that you desire and deserve!

Contact Me

hello@coachchristyholt.com

NEVER MISS AN UPDATE