Rethinking Relationships: Busting The Myth of 50/50 in Love

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THE 50/50 LIE: Why Equal Effort in Relationships Is a Total SCAM

In a world where the idea of a perfect 50/50 relationship is often idolized, it’s time to debunk this myth once and for all so that we can embrace the true nature of love and connection. In this podcast episode, “The 50/50 Lie: Why Equal Effort in Relationships Is a Total Scam,” I explore why striving for an equal split in relationships can be more harmful than helpful.


The Myth of 50/50 in Relationships

The concept of a 50/50 relationship, where each partner contributes equally at all times, is a widespread belief. However, this whole idea overlooks the dynamic and ever-changing nature of relationships. Love isn’t about keeping score; it’s about flexibility, understanding, and supporting each other through life’s ebbs and flows.


Key Insights from the Episode

  • Relationships are not static; they’re dynamic. Sometimes the contribution might be 60/40, other times 30/70, and that’s perfectly okay.
  • Letting go of the 50/50 myth can lead to more authentic and meaningful connections. It’s about understanding and adapting to each other’s needs.
  • Keeping score in a relationship often leads to dissatisfaction and conflict. True partnership is about mutual support, not tallying efforts.


Practical Tips for Embracing Dynamic Relationships

  • Self Reflection: Take time to understand your own needs and how you can contribute to your relationship in a way that feels authentic and fulfilling.
  • Communication: Open and honest communication with your partner about your needs and expectations is crucial.
  • Flexibility: Be willing to adapt and understand that your contributions to the relationship may change over time.



The idea of a 50/50 relationship is not only unrealistic but can also prevent us from experiencing deeper, more meaningful connections. By embracing the dynamic nature of relationships and focusing on authentic contributions, we can build stronger, healthier, and happier partnerships. For the full conversation, tune in on YouTube here. Or find Create Your Happy on your favourite podcast player by visiting the Create Your Happy Podcast Website.


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