Are you feeling that familiar New Year pressure to create resolutions and completely transform yourself? What if I told you that the key to real change isn’t about fixing what’s “wrong” with you, but about aligning with who you already are?
Why Most New Year’s Resolutions Fail
It’s not because people don’t want to change badly enough–it’s because they’re trying to force actions without first shifting their identity. When we try to make drastic changes without first aligning our identity with that change, we create an internal disconnect.
The Power of Being vs. Doing
Most of our “problems” are actually identity problems in disguise. When we solve the identity piece, the actions flow naturally. For example, instead of “I need to find my person” or “I need to fix my relationship” (which puts the focus on what’s lacking), what if you shifted to “I am someone who creates deep, meaningful connections and shows up authentically”? Can you feel the difference? One keeps you in a state of wanting and fixing, while the other aligns you with the energy of already being the person who naturally creates fulfilling relationships.
Setting Intentions from Wholeness
Let’s look at common pitfalls when setting intentions:
- The ‘Not Enough’ Trap: Setting intentions from a place of thinking you’re broken or need to be fixed. Remember, you’re already whole.
- The ‘Someday’ Syndrome: Putting your joy and fulfillment off until you reach some future goal. The magic is in bringing that future energy into your present moment.
- The ‘All or Nothing’ Mindset: Thinking you need to transform everything at once. Small, aligned actions create sustainable change.
How to Know If You’re Setting Intentions from Lack vs. Wholeness
Lack feels like:
- Tension or constriction
- A sense of urgency or desperation
- Comparing yourself to others
- Using phrases like “I should” “I have to” or “I need to”
Wholeness feels like:
- Expansion and openness
- Excitement and possibility
- Being inspired by others while staying in your own lane
- Using phrases like “I choose to” or “I get to”
Practical Tools for Daily Connection
- Morning Connection Practice: Before checking your phone, take 30 seconds to embody your intention.
- Environmental Anchors: Leave reminders in your space – a word on your mirror, a symbol on your desk.
- Pattern Interruption: When old patterns surface, pause, breathe, and ask “What would the version of me who’s already living this intention do?”
- Evening Reflection: Celebrate three moments from your day where you aligned with your intention.
Remember, transformation isn’t about massive action all at once. It’s about consistent micro-movements from an aligned place. Each time you connect with your intention, each time you choose an action that aligns with your future self, you’re creating lasting change.
Guided Visualization for an Epic 2025
In this special season finale episode of Create Your Happy, I share a powerful guided visualization exercise designed to help you connect with and embody your 2025 intentions. This isn’t just another planning session – it’s an opportunity to truly feel into the version of yourself who naturally creates the outcomes you desire. So grab a pen and paper, settle into a cozy spot and join me around the 12 minute mark of this episode.
Tune into the full episode here:
Ready to Transform Your Love Life in 2025?
If creating more love–whether with yourself or in your relationships–is part of your 2025 intentions, Love, Unstuck is your practical guidebook for making it happen. Unlike traditional relationship books that focus on “fixing” what’s wrong, Love, Unstuck helps you reconnect with your innate wholeness and create lasting change from the inside out.
Through powerful exercises, practical tools, and real-life examples, you’ll discover:
- How to shift your identity to naturally attract healthier relationships
- Ways to transform your patterns without forcing change
- Tools for building unshakeable self-trust
- Practices for creating authentic connections that last
- Methods for turning intention into aligned action
Start your journey to more love today here.
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Season Finale
As we wrap up Season 3 of Create Your Happy, I’ll be taking a short break to start 2025, with the podcast returning sometime in spring. While you wait for Season 4, this is the perfect time to catch up on past episodes and share your experiences with me. What topics would you like to see covered when we return? Your input helps shape future episodes because you’re why I do what I do!
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S3E33 | New Year Intention Setting – Being Over Doing in 2025
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