As we are now part way into the New Year, the buzz of resolutions is starting to wane and talk of our “falling off the wagon” is entering the conversation. But are we even approaching resolutions in the right way? In this episode of “The Happiness Hussy Presents,” I had the pleasure of discussing this topic in depth with Paul Levitin, host of the Happy Healthy Human Podcast. Our conversation explored the heart of New Year’s resolutions, challenging traditional approaches and exploring how to set intentions that lead to real, lasting change.
The Misconception of Self Sabotage
One of the key points discussed was the concept of self sabotage. Paul and I agreed that what often appears as “self sabotage” is actually a form of self-preservation. Our subconscious mind, in its effort to keep us safe and comfortable, can resist changes that push us out of our familiar zones, calling us to stay warm and cozy in our comfort zone. Understanding this can be a game-changer in how we approach our goals.
Enthusiasm vs. Obligation
Another key takeaway from our conversation was the importance of enthusiasm in goal setting. Are the goals we set for ourselves genuinely desired, or are they influenced by societal expectations or “shoulds”? There is significant meaning in finding joy in the journey towards our goals. This means choosing paths and methods that we are genuinely excited about, rather than those we feel obligated to follow.
Practical Strategies for Realistic Goal Setting
As always, it is important to discover practical strategies (ones that ACTUALLY WORK!) for setting and maintaining goals. Habit stacking, for instance, is a technique where you pair a new habit with an existing one, making it easier to incorporate into your daily routine. This approach, along with setting realistic and achievable goals, increases the likelihood of consistency AND ultimately success.
Embracing the Journey
A recurring theme in our discussion was the importance of enjoying the process. Goals are not just about the destination but about the journey. Finding contentment and joy in the steps we take towards our goals not only makes the journey more enjoyable but also more sustainable!
This insightful conversation brought to light the need for a shift in how we view New Year’s resolutions and how we approach their implementation. It’s about setting intentions that resonate with our true desires, finding joy in the journey, and understanding that setbacks are a natural part of growth. As we move forward, let’s approach our goals with enthusiasm, self compassion, and a mindset geared towards sustainable change. THIS is how you can do New Years Resolutions “RIGHT!”
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